SELF- COACHING HOW TO HEAL ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION |
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Joseph J. Luciani, Ph.D. |
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You can feel better, starting right now! Whether you're anxious or depressed, this innovative book will teach you how to change your way of thinking and improve your life. Using the revolutionary concept of Self-coaching, you'll follow simple steps that will help you overcome the thought patterns that lead to anxiety and depression. As you achieve a positive outlook, you'll learn how to maintain balance, clarity, and spontaneity each and every day at home, at work, and in all your relationships. Self-Coaching will inspire, motivate, and liberate you. Dr. Luciani's approach has been proven time and again by his patients. And now he can help you too! Self-Coaching will show you how to:
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About the Author |
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| Joseph J. Luciani, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist with over twenty-five years of experience. He is a well-known lecturer and has appeared on national telelvion and radio programs. He lives in New Jersey.
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| "A clear, concise blueprint for those who want to leave their history behind and move toward emotional health."
--Dr. Laura Schlessinger, "A groundbreaking, fast-paced, action-oriented new training program for dealing with mild to moderate anxiety and depression. Self-Coaching is a dramatic and fresh departure from traditional therapeutic approaches and a motivational training program." --Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D., "An excellent contribution to the self-help literature, Self-Coaching provides the reader with powerful tools to heal anxiety and depression. Dr. Luciani's message is clear and important: You can be your own coach and take charge of your life. If you really want to help yourself, buy this book and use it." --Sam Menahem, Ph.D., |
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Excerpts |
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| Most people, when it comes to feeling anxious or depressed, see themselves as victims: "She called me a jerk, so of course I'm depressed. Wouldn't you be?" or "See, now you got me upset. Are you satisfied?" or "How could you stay out so late? I was worried sick." Victims feel they have no choice; someone or something is always "making" them worry, panic, get upset, or unhappy. "How can I stop worrying? With my crazy job, I have no choice!" Sometimes, when a mood or anxiety seems to appear without rhyme or reason, you feel like a victim of fate: "I wasn't doing anything, I was just driving to work and I got this panic attack." When feeling like a victim, it never occurs to you that you can do anything about how you feel. Once you realize that thoughts precede feelings, you can understand that you're not powerless. There is something you can do. You can change how you think and simultaneously discover that you're beginning to feel better. Self-coaching can teach you how to take responsibility for your thoughts and change that victim attitude--especially the thoughts produced by our Insecure Child. If left unchallenged, your Insecure Child will ruin your life. Learning to challenge the primitive thoughts of your insecure Child is how you'll reclaim your life. Self-Coaching: Let's say I've been feeling depressed and want to quit my job. After changing the channels on my Insecure Child's whining and sulking, and after directing my thoughts to a more rational and reasonable perception of my options, it's time to follow through. I do this by gaining insight into my Child's motives. If I can determine why my Child is so desperate, I can begin to fortify myself for my next skirmish with him by understanding what makes him tick, "My Child wants to quit because he can't handle the responsibility. Why? Because he's too scared of screwing up. My Child doesn't trust me!" Why you're withdrawn, or why you worry all the time are shadows of your past ("I'm sensitive to criticism because my mother was a control freak. Nothing I did was ever good enough!" "Sure I'm insecure. When I was young, I was overweight. Everyone teased me, even my parents."). Somewhere in your trial-and-error development, you found that certain strategies of control worked, and others didn't... If one strategy of control works more than another to reduce anxiety, it's likely to be repeated. A child with an alcoholic parent may, for example, develop a habit of emotional rigidity. Learning to think before reacting could prove the difference between a night of calm or a night of chaos. Considering such early circumstances, a primitive strategy like emotional rigidity might become highly effective. Once you begin to develop a habit's muscle, it can become a permanent fixture in your psychic life. Self-Coaching: So often, patients want me to know how screwed up they are, how "mental" they are, or how crazy they are. I never accept these dire perceptions. From the beginning, I insist, "The only thing wrong with you is that you have a bad habit, a habit of insecurity." Like any habits, whether they be nail biting or cigarette smoking, your habits won't be easy to break--but they are breakable. Your Insecure Child has gained habit strength--your Child has become your nicotine, your booze, your weakness. Self-talk is your tool to dislodge your destructive Insecure Child habit and replace it with a life-sustaining habit of natural, instinctual functioning. Don't be naïve; don't think you're different--expect a struggle. Habits, by their very nature, resist change... Breaking old habits requires an ongoing effort. Your Insecure Child must be challenged, not just today, but every day until you're liberated from all anxiety and depression. Pep talks, Self-talk, and your systematic daily training efforts are all necessary components designed to kick the habit of insecurity. Self-Coaching: [from the softbound edition] |
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