The Divided Heart: Helping Kids Cope with Divorce

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Helping Children Cope with Divorce by Edward Teyber
Helping Children Cope with Divorce provides specific guidelines to help parents deal with the issues that emerge at each stage of the divorce process. Teyber clearly and compassionately details how parents can minimize the distress for children during the initial breakup, explain the divorce to the children, tailor custody and visitation plans to accommodate children's needs, shield children from parental conflict, discipline children effectively in the aftermath of divorce, and form successful new stepfamilies. The book offers a number of realistic family scenarios and sample parent-child dialogues for handling issues. Drawing on a wealth of case studies, recent research findings on children's responses to divorce, and his extensive experience counseling divorced families, Teyber offers a specific plan of action in a reassuring, engaging manner, to help ensure children's successful adjustment.
Divorce Poison by Dr. Richard A. Warshak
Your ex-spouse is bad-mouthing you to your children, perhaps even trying to turn them against you. If you handle the situation ineffectively, you could lose your children's respect, their affections -- even, in extreme cases, contact with them. The conventional advice is to do nothing for fear that any response could result in greater injury to the children. But with twenty-five years of helping families, Dr. Richard Warshak is convinced that a passive approach just leaves parents feeling helpless. And the damage to children is considerable, particularly when warring parents enlist children as allies in the battle. Divorce Poison offers specific advice for parents whose children are caught in the middle.
Difficult Questions Kids Ask [and are too afraid to ask] About Divorce by Meg F. Schneider and Joan Zuckerberg, Ph.D.
This invaluable book fully explores the apparent and hidden fears that haunt children as they weather the painful confusion of a divorce. Difficult Questions Kids Ask -- and Are Too Afraid to Ask -- About Divorce shows parents how to:
  • Talk with their children about divorce
  • Tell the truth without frightening the children
  • Use words to strengthen the parent-child relationship
  • Keep the lines of communication open throughout the entire divorce experience
In a question-and-answer dialogue format, Schneider and Zuckerberg tackle children's concerns, teaching parents how to read between the lines all along the way.
Parenting After Divorce: A Guide to Resolving Conflicts and Meeting Your Children's Needs by Philip M. Stahl, Ph.D.
Parents argue a lot during a divorce and if they continue to argue after the divorce," says Dr. Philip Stahl, "their children will suffer." Stahl knows parents are not perfect, and he uses that knowledge to show imperfect parents how to settle their differences in the best interests of the children. Here at last is a realistic perspective on divorce and its effects on children. Parenting After Divorce features knowledgeable advice from an expert custody evaluator. Packed with real-world examples, this book avoids idealistic assumptions, and offers practical help for divorcing parents, custody evaluators, family court counselors, marriage and family therapists and others interested in the best interest of the children.
Caught in the Middle: Protecting the Children of High-Conflict Divorce by Carla B. Garrity and Mitchell A. Baris
For most children, growing up with a feeling of competence and pride is a challenge in itself, even within a supportive, protective family. But for the children of conflict-ridden, angry divorced parents -- the situation for one-third of all children of divorce -- it is nothing short of a miracle. As divorce research grows, it is increasingly apparent that continued, unresolved conflict between parents is the major obstacle to their children's adjustment in childhood as well as later in life. Caught in the Middle provides parents embroiled in conflict and the professionals who treat them with the means to work out these conflicts. Garrity and Baris, child psychologists who have concentrated on the field of divorce counseling for twenty years, examine the causes and consequences of parental conflict and here offer concrete advice to make co-parenting work -- even in a high-conflict divorce -- to the benefit of all involved, particularly the children.
The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A 25 Year Landmark Study by Judith S. Wallerstein, Julia M. Lewis, and Sandra Blakeslee
Twenty-five years ago, Judith Wallerstein began talking to a group of 131 children whose parents were all going through a divorce. She asked them to tell her about the intimate details of their lives, which they did with remarkable candor. Having earned their trust, Wallerstein was rewarded with a deeply moving portrait of each of their lives as she followed them from childhood, through their adolescent struggles, and into adulthood. With The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, Wallerstein offers us the only close-up study of divorce ever conducted--a unique report that will change our fundamental beliefs about divorce and offer new hope for the future. For the first time, using a comparison group of adults who grew up in the same communities, Wallerstein shows how adult children of divorce essentially view life differently from their peers raised in intact homes where parents also confronted marital difficulties but decided on balance to stay together. In this way she sheds light on the question so many parents confront--whether to stay unhappily married or to divorce. The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce should be essential reading for all adult children of divorce, their lovers, their partners, divorced parents or those considering divorce, judges, attorneys, and mental health professionals. Challenging some of our most cherished beliefs, this is a book that will forever alter how we think about divorce and its long-term impact on American society.
My Stick Family: Helping Children Cope With Divorce by Natalie June Reilly and Brandi J. Pavese
This book presents a tender story, simply and charmingly illustrated. In the story Billy learns that just because his parents live in separate houses, it doesn't mean that the strength and love of a family has been taken from him. Billy discovers what matters most is the love for each other that lives inside our hearts. This book is an important tool for parents, educators and therapists who are trying to find comforting messages to help children cope during the sad and confusing time in their lives when their parents are divorcing. It emphasizes and reaffirms the resilience and constancy of love for the children within the family, even after a marriage ends. The book is designed for children ages 4 to 8 and provides a reassuring message for children who's parents are divorcing.

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