...Dance me very tenderly and dance me very long We're both of us beneath our love we're both of us above Dance me to the end of love...                 "Dance Me to the End of Love"                 Various Positions
	The following article appeared in the magazine Details, July, 1993

The Determinator Leonard Cohen, the maestro of melancholy, answers questions on love, obsession, and despair What's the one thing men ought to know about women? A.B. (Berkeley, CA) They are deeply involved in a pattern of thought centered around the notion of commitment. What's the one thing women ought to know about men? T.M. (Worcester, MA) A man steadfastly refuses to eavesdrop on his conversation with himself. Is there a difference between love and obesession? F.S. (Phoenix, AZ) It is the same difference between the Sermon on the Mount and the Crucifixion. What do men really want? B.B. (Houston, TX) A square deal. What would be the most appropriate thing for a guy to say to a girl after sex? J.H. (New York, NY) Thank you. I am twenty-eight; I work and attend college. I have been single for three years and love women but have developed a strong attraction for Italian men only. I have repeated dreams about them. What should I do? J.G. (Los Angeles, CA) This habitual drift toward the trivial will continue to make you suffer. Is it possible to be madly in love with more than one person at a time? M.B. (San Jose, Costa Rica) It is possible to be in love with more than one person at a time but not "madly in love." Is honesty always the best policy? G.W. (Hartford, CT) In my case, yes. In your case, rarely. How can you tell if you're in love? C.H. (Fort Lauderdale, FL) You dissolve your strategy for the other. Why is having an orgasm so exhilarating? N.P. (Portland, OR) You stop thinking about yourself. How can I remain friends with my former lover? R.A. (Chicago, IL) Move to another country. Is it possible to achieve love without desire? S.O. (Washington, DC) Yes. Are there any examples of good or healthy sexual relationships in the Bible? P.R. (Cleveland, OH) The patriarchs and their wives stand as shining examples of possible human marriages. The love of Jesus for Mary Magdalene continues to inspire me. Is loneliness necessarily a sad thing? M.C. (Atlanta, GA) Yes, it is designed to be that way. How long does it take to recover from a bad relationship? S.T. (Baltimore, MD) You never recover from a bad relationship. I feel humiliated and exposed by my needs and my desires, even when they're reciprocated. How can I deal with this? T.D. (London, England) You feel humiliated and confused anyway. Do not confuse the issue with your needs and desires. Does there have to be democracy in sexual fantasies? I love tying up my lover, but I don't want him to tie me up. C.H. (Middlebury, VT) You are already tied up. Why do people marry? M.D. (Hudson, OH) I don't know. Ask the man who owns one.

Many thanks to Mary Winter, a true Sister of Mercy, for providing this article.

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